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People who don’t have an internal monologue. What’s it like? Is it peaceful? What do you think of people who do have an internal monologue?

People who don’t have an internal monologue. What’s it like? Is it peaceful? What do you think of people who do have an internal monologue?

grombleduke

I get more like a series of impressions (instead of thinking a phrase like 'blue chair' I get a sort of sense of blue-ness and a sense of chair-ness) that I suspect are very similar to an internal monologue, and sometimes when I'm stressy or trying to focus I'll have an external monologue ("okay, so now I need to pick out my clothes... do I want the red shirt or the green shirt?") but I don't know if that's similar to how an internal one works. I have no way of knowing if it's more peaceful, because I've never really had an internal monologue. Does it, like... comment on you? Judge you? Or just describe things?


thedrunksalescoach

That’s a fair description. Do you coach yourself through situations or is it more impulsive? Idk if it’s just my internal monologue or the combination with my ADHD but it feels like my internal monologue is always on going 100 mph.


grombleduke

Hm, I'm not sure I quite get what you mean by 'coach yourself through situations.' Is this... like, does your internal monologue act supportive? "You got this!" kinds of phrases?


thedrunksalescoach

Yeah somewhat, especially when encountering a difficult situation. I’ll normally say to myself, “ok what is causing this person to react this way?” “What is this person trying to achieve?” “Don’t overreact. Think this through and then respond.”


grombleduke

Ah, fair enough. No, nothing like that in my head, just... well, impressions of things. I'll occasionally respond verbally to situations with something like, "such is life," or, "time to do the needful," but not usually social situations 'cuz those have other people present who may take it poorly. I will often wonder if I've made some horrifyingly obvious social faux pas sometimes, but always in that same sort of series of impressions. Heh, I'm low-support autistic and I really identified with your example of trying to figure out another person's motivations.


Iri_fighter

Wait, some people don't have internal monologue?


thedrunksalescoach

For some people that voice in their head just doesn’t exist apparently. The example given was that they thought the voice from Mel Gibson’s What Women Want was just strictly done for theatrical purposes and didn’t realize other have that.


grombleduke

Holy hell, I'd seen that movie and, even knowing about inner monologues, it never clicked.


umassmza

I think it’s supposed to be half and half


grombleduke

Rather a few! Apparently it's more common in people on the autism spectrum to not have an inner monologue, but the experience is certainly not uncommon. I had a similar moment learning that people talking about a little voice or inner monologue was, like, *literal.* The idea is just so foreign to my own experiences; the parallel closest I could get is the experience of recalling a song, playing it back like a record inside your own head.


jimmyjohnjohnjohn

I don't have an internal monologue, but it doesn't mean my head is empty! My thoughts take the form of images, sounds, smells, and sometimes just pure thought without a sensory component. Yes, sometimes my thoughts are verbal, but it's nothing like a continuous monologue. There are different voices for thinking about different things. Sometimes visualized as a page in a book or magazine. Often it is not English, but an ad-hoc gibberish language that makes sense only to me.


WifeofTech

The only time I don't have an internal monologue going on there's usually an external one taking up the silence. Aka I talk to myself a lot.


appleORorange

I have tinnitus so its never quiet in my head, however i also have to think about every action i do so am always a good 4 hours ahead of live..... and generally have 2-3 days planned out mostly by structure, so i know whats going to happen before hand. ​ The above means anything i do is measured against a known map, that means if i am asked somewhere i know within seconds if i will go, as i have a template i can lay over what i will do, how i will get there, what i will wear etc, the moment i am asked, as an example: \- Them : Hey, will you come to xxx next Monday \- Me : Whats it for, is it related to company as your a client \- Them : Yes, we would like you there as you do the work here \- Me : How long is on for, do they have parking, you have a map to get there, do i need paperwork and whats the dress code \- Them : Need to be there about 0700, yes parking is there and map is on the invite you will get via email, black tie ​ The above gives me enough information to know once i get the email i can navigate to it, what to dress (i dont wear shirts and ties EVER), so if they want to kick up an issue then i will just leave as soon as i arrive), i know i can park, if it turns in to some off party i can leave as thats not company related, if its speeches etc... its boring but am there for a corporate reason.


Pleasant_Drawing3065

I think in pictures and feelings, mostly. Sometimes the pictures include textures. When I hear a voice in my head, it’s never my own voice. When I read text, I my brain has to change it to someone else’s voice reading it (in a very dramatic, theatrical way), and then to pictures and images like a movie. I think this is why I prefer audiobooks to reading text—it cuts out a brain step for me and I can focus on the story.