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Should I (41f) break up with my boyfriend (32m) if he refuses to tell his mother that we never actually broke up and are still in a relationship?

Should I (41f) break up with my boyfriend (32m) if he refuses to tell his mother that we never actually broke up and are still in a relationship?

xamberglow

The bar is so, so low.


rainbowsandMetal

Should you break up with a grown ass man still unable to stand his ground with mummy? Seriously?


willowcat20

What is this dumpster fire of a relationship? Do better for yourself and leave this loser.


ThisOneForMee

I’d rather be single forever than deal with this never ending DRAMA


Doughchild

It sounds like you're fighting battles and not looking at the war. This is a guy who's doing a lot of unacceptable things (including an SA accusation!), and you keep him around your special needs child? That seems incredibly selfish. Your kid never asked for this person to be in their life or you to spend your resources on him. And all you're worrying about is this guy's mom? With all the things you're doing, it sounds like you have a parental relationship with him. Why did you not just go do some fostering if you wanted another child to nurture?


geekroick

I'm amazed that you keep putting up with this shit, day after day. Is he really so great that it cancels out all the questionable things he's done to you? His mental illness may be the explanation but it still doesn't justify any of it happening. And it seems like you've given him a free pass every time he messes up, because of it. Is this really what you want for the rest of your life and the rest your child's? I don't think your ultimatum of telling his parents the truth about your relationship is too much, but I do think that even if he keeps on lying to them, you'll just let it go anyway. If you do break up, then make it a permanent break. P. S. Your boyfriend/ex should be keeping his medication in a locked container that only he has access to.


notme1414

Geez walk away from this train wreck.


goatismycopilot

You should break up with him because this is a crappy relationship.


germainefear

For fuck's sake, he sexually assaulted a teenager.


Poots_in_boots

What did I just read


Saltysweet57

If people are warning you about them then why even bother with them? Seems he’s a mess and needs to fix his life. I would never be with someone who could not hold down a job. Personal opinion however. That would be a giant red flag for me. In fact everyone telling me not to date or fuck with that would be the first red flag.